Know that not knowing how to do first sex intercourse is true with most
For a guy knowledge of female genital geography is beneficial.
The diagrams, or blue films are representative and the actual search for
location of insertion of penis can be formidable. It is like seeing a map
or a documentary and actually being on the battlefield. Just as in
battlefield example so too in actual first time sexual meet anxiety is
difficult to manage.
Tension hai yaar First know that it is not
essential that you do penis in vagina [peno-vaginal] insertion in the
first sexual intercourse. Will that not be embarrassing? No. It proves
that you are virgin/inexperienced person. This does not mean you shun sex
play or feel defeated.
FIRST SEXUAL INTERCOURSE REQUIREMENTS Sexual
 privacy,  time and  protection against
important undesirable consequences.
Note about PROTECTION is given at the end.
Suhagrat or First Wedding Night is the wrong time to attempt first
HOW TO BEGIN first sexual intercourse?
the requirements in mind begin with making love or Foreplay. Foreplay
includes talking(naughty), listening, touching, kissing, caressing,
embracing all that gives sexual pleasure. Use your finger, hand, tongue,
mouth as you both feel enjoyable. Nothing is forbidden. Just hold on to
the 'ANAND' [JOY] as the mantra. This helps learn actual female sexual
geography, removes inhibitions and increases sexual pleasure many folds.
HOW TO BEGIN INSERTION?
I presume girlfriend is virgin. Please
OBSERVE whether she is afraid or in pain at the moment of attempting
insertion. Noticing this is important. Most girls during first sex are
afraid as they have wrong notion that sex is painful and (or) there is
bleeding during first sex. IMPORTANT In the situation mentioned above,
which is applicable to over 50% of couples who are doing sexual
intercourse for first (or initial few times) the result is inability to
insert penis in vagina. This is called 'unconsummated sex'. 100% of boys
believe they are the cause of it. Boys believe inability to insert is
because of their poor erection or quicker ejaculation. Though there is no
sexual inadequacy in boys doing sexual intercourse for the first time
they believe they have failed and are sexually inadequate. Fear
HOW TO DO FIRST SEXUAL INTERCOURSE?
First use the finger
to locate the vaginal opening. The girl knows this opening because this
is the place from where menses flow during her period. On the touch of
finger or attempting to insert finger if she experiences pain DO NOT EVEN
ATTEMPT TO insert penis. Reason one: Both come to think there is
something wrong with them. It becomes a setback that causes heightened
fear during next attempt at sexual intercourse. The inability to do
insertion of penis in vagina during first sexual intercourse is like a
certificate that says both are inexperienced -that is - virgins. When a
finger can go inside smoothly without pain, you may attempt insertion of
penis. In the missionary position where he is on top of her body, he
cannot see where the penis is going. When you feel there is partial
insertion it means there is no insertion. The penis just goes between thighs or thick folds of labia majora (external part of vulva/female genital).
Do not feel bad if insertion does not happen for it is not uncommon.
Key to having Most Exciting Sex?
SHAMELESSNESS IS THE SECRET TO GREAT SEX
Note about PROTECTION OR SAFE SEX
[A] Protection to avoid unwanted pregnancy,
[B] Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) and
[C] Social-moral embarassment, more important emotional hurt when one of the two decide to separate. Feeling of being used for example. First impression often leaves women embittered about men kind if man wants casual sex and girl is in committed relationship with him.
Men give love for the sake of Sex. Women give Sex for the sake of Love.
Dr. Ashok Koparday
Consultant Sex Therapist
Ex. Teaching Faculty
K.E.M. Hospital and Sir J.J. Group of Hospitals,
University of Mumbai
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