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Query from: Sumita Saxena, India, 01/05/09
Topic: SEXUAL HEALTH      Submitted on:
Subject: my partner's penis doesn't go fully inside my vagina .

i m 24 & married for 2 yrs from last 2 -3 months we are not enjoying sex coz my huby is complaining that my vagina has become loose & i m feeling that his penis doesn't go fully inside my vagina i m very much worried what should i do coz earlier we enjoyed sex a lot please help me.

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Response from: Geetha Gopakumar,   
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Since this problem that you both feeling now is a current one then it cannot be considered as a sexual health problem just only the feeling due to continuous sexual plays. Hope you both are staying together for these two years. It is natural and common to reduced feeling of sexual apetite and sexual plasure during copulation when it is a conitnuous and regular one.Sexual excitement has reduced. Try to do kegel exercise -It is an exercise you can do anytime you want, hours of daylight night, work, anywhere, anytime. This will oblige you tense up your vagina and be paid you tighter. You tense up your muscles within your vagina while taking deep breath at first, letting it out as you totally relax, subsequent pick up the pace to a faster "squeeze" it will strenghten the muscles, making you tighter. and it improve sex as well ;) look it up and see if it works. Meanwhile, there are a few change in positions that can kind vagina tighter. Crossing legs is the simplest position that tightens the vagina. Your husband can take sector and help you surrounded by some part of kaegel exercise.

Reduce the number of days of intercourse. Also change the place and time of intercorse, do oral and other ways of sex than concentrating on intercourse only. The pelvic floor muscles form a broad sling between your legs from the pubic bone in front to the base of your spine at the back. They help to hold the bladder, womb and bowel in place and to control the muscles that close the anus, vagina and urethra. When the pelvic floor muscles are weakened or damaged, as the result of childbirth for example, they cannot do this effectively. This can result in stress incontinence, decreased satisfaction during intercourse and prolapse. Stress incontinence means that you might leak small amounts of urine while coughing, sneezing, laughing or exercising. It is estimated that up to 25 per cent of new mothers suffer from stress incontinence. Pelvic floor exercises can strengthen these muscles so that they function effectively again. The more you use them, the stronger they will be.

Strong pelvic floor muscles can support the extra weight of pregnancy, help in the second stage of labour and, by increasing your circulation, assist in healing the perineum between the anus and vagina after birth. When done regularly, these exercises can help to prevent stress incontinence and prolapse in later life. Another benefit of the exercises is that women with strengthened pelvic floor muscles are more likely to be orgasmic and have a more satisfying sex life.Imagine that you are trying to stop yourself from passing wind and trying to stop your flow of urine mid-stream, at the same time. The feeling is one of "squeeze and lift", closing and drawing up the front and back passages. (When you have practised the exercises for a while, you could also try this during love-making, asking your partner whether he can feel the effect.)

Of course, that sounds easy enough. But the catch is that you have to squeeze and lift without:

• pulling in your tummy

• squeezing your legs together

• tightening your buttocks

• holding your breath

In other words, only your pelvic floor muscles should be working.

Just as children learn to wink by using all their facial muscles at the beginning, you might find it difficult to use your pelvic floor muscles in isolation at first. It does get easier with practice though. You might find it helpful to place a hand on your abdomen while you are practising, to make sure it stays relaxed.

If you're unsure whether you are doing this exercise correctly, you could try the following. As long as there are no contra-indications -- and provided you have recovered from childbirth -- put one or two fingers in your vagina when you are having a bath and try the exercise. You should feel a gentle squeeze if you are exercising the pelvic floor.

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Response from: Shay jones,   
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try doing the Kegal execrise its squeezing your vagina like you have to pea a couple of times a day and douch, douch is suppose to tighten you pelvic mucle up. hope this help Ask shay1

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Response from: @ KaRtiKa,   
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hi its better to consult gynecologist

Natural Cure to Tighten Vagina

Loose vagina is a problem faced by all women after child birth. When you give birth to a child, your vagina usually gets stretched out and becomes loose. Deliveries and child birth often results in relaxed pelvic muscles and leads to loose vaginal muscles and reduced sexual activity. Loose vagina reduces your thrive and satisfaction level, therefore many women go for vaginal tightening in order to regain the lost satisfaction in terms of sexual relationship.

Vaginal tightening is a process of strengthening, toning and tightening vaginal muscles. This tightening of vaginal muscles helps in improving your sexual relationship and allows you to live a richer and more satisfied sexual life. There are many clinical ways of tightening your vagina but women often prefer natural ways because those are much safer in the long run.

There are over the counter creams and lotions that are used for tightening vagina. You can make use of herbal creams. The best and the safest means to tighten your vagina are through physical exercise and yoga. These exercises are mainly related to contraction and relaxation of your vagina which eventually helps in tightening your vaginal muscles. Take a deep breath and contract your vagina, hold it for few seconds and then exhale releasing your vaginal muscles. Continue this exercise for at last 10 counts daily.

These days, many women are also going for Kegel exercise. These exercises are meant for toning and strengthening the vaginal muscles as well as the area around the vagina.

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Response from: Velavartipati Vachaspati,   
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Madam, Lessening Communication gap is more important than sex. Loosening of Vegina during intercourse may be corected by small surgery, if U want.

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Response from: Suresh chandra Padhi,   
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Hi Sumita, Your husband has a problem of Erectile Dysfunction -- an inability of generating and maintaining erection hard enough to penetrate. It can occur at any age but people in their sixties are more prone to it.

Factors Contributing to Erectile Dysfunction: Lack of frequent erection Excessive smoking and alcoholism Emotional disorder, problem in relationship Diabetes, high cholesterol etc. How erection happens: The penis contains two chambers called the corpora cavernosa, which run the length of the organ. A spongy tissue fills the chambers. The corpora cavernosa are surrounded by a membrane, called the tunica albuginea. The spongy tissue contains smooth muscles, fibrous tissues, spaces, veins, and arteries. The urethra, which is the channel for urine and ejaculate, runs along the underside of the corpora cavernosa and is surrounded by the corpus spongiosum.

Erection begins with sensory or mental stimulation, or both. Impulses from the brain and local nerves cause the muscles of the corpora cavernosa to relax, allowing blood to flow in and fill the spaces. The blood creates pressure in the corpora cavernosa, making the penis expand. The tunica albuginea helps trap the blood in the corpora cavernosa, thereby sustaining erection. When muscles in the penis contract to stop the inflow of blood and open outflow channels, erection is reversed.

How is it treated? Most physicians suggest that treatments proceed from least to most invasive. For some men, making a few healthy lifestyle changes may solve the problem. Quitting smoking, losing excess weight, and increasing physical activity may help some men regain sexual function.

Cutting back on any drugs with harmful side effects is considered next. For example, drugs for high blood pressure work in different ways. If you think a particular drug is causing problems with erection, tell your doctor and ask whether you can try a different class of blood pressure medicine.

Psychotherapy and behavior modifications in selected patients are considered next if indicated, followed by oral or locally injected drugs, vacuum devices, and surgically implanted devices. In rare cases, surgery involving veins or arteries may be considered.

ED usually has a physical cause. It is treatable at all ages. Treatments include psychotherapy, drug therapy, vacuum devices, and surgery.

You may desire to see a sexologist immediately and get your husband treated

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Response from: PUNDALIK ADKAR,   
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Dont worry be happy. Dont look at all this, you both try to feel the sensitivness of that duration. As these types of questions are mostly asked by various patients, but this is natural, & we people cannot go beyong nature.

I would only tell you to avoid wild sex, specially dog style position causes such problems,

Thanks & Regards,


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Response from: Ms saipriya r,   
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Dear Sumita Saxena,

Try different types of sexual positions like :-

Woman on top: This is a sex position that requires the man to lie on his back allow the woman to lower herself onto his erect penis. With a good sex position with the woman on top sex positions either the man or the woman can guide the penis into the vagina.

A sex position such as this allow the woman to control the movement, depth and pacing of sexual intercourse. The woman can move around and adjust the angle of the penis, getting it into areas that the man would never be able to do if the he was on top.

Variations of this good sex position.

Facing you she can kneel, sit or squat on top of the penis; Facing you she can straighten her legs, allowing for even deeper penetration; She can turn around and face your feet, using her hands to push herself up and down; She can even lie down flat with her back on your chest, with her legs together to keep your penis inside.

Woman on top sexual positions also allow for a terrific amount of indirect stimulation of the clitoris by the penis allowing a lot of women to reach orgasm easier and quicker.

Couples like this sex position a lot better because they both can move their hands more freely to caress each other than in most other positions. They can also see each other during sexual intercourse.

Standing up sexual positions: Standing up positions are typically done with the man and woman facing each other - arms wrapped around, usually with the womans arms around the mans neck for support and her legs wrapped around his waist.

While in standing up sexual positions the woman can move freely, slowly or the man can take to lead the movement. A good sex position such as this usually is best if the woman is light and the man is taller and stronger.

Variations on this good sex position.

You are leaning back against a wall you and the woman are facing each other; The woman is against a wall, again facing each other. You and your partner using either of the variations above can also do standing up sex positions in your pool or at some private beach in the water.

Side by side sex: A sex position such as this can be the most effective sex position especially if the man and the woman are very different in height or weight.

A good sex position such as this is just a sex position in which you have sexual intercourse lying on your sides facing each other. Side by side sex positions are also very good if both of you are tired.

A couple can either start off in the side by side sex position or arrive at a side by side sex position by rolling over from man or woman on top sex positions.

With side by side positions deep pelvic thrusting is difficult and some couples prefer not to use side by side sex for that reason. But side by side sex positions are very good for people who need to avoid strenuous activity.

Side by side sex is also very good for both partners to freely use their hands to caress each other and the face to face, side by side sex positions allow partners to kiss.

Variations on this sex position.

Use the spoon position allowing you to be behind her; The scissors position is another variation of this good sex position. She lies on her back and you lie beside her on your side. She raises her leg and you pass your leg between her making a scissors affect with your legs and entering her vagina from the side.

Rear entry sex: This good sex position is when the mans penis enters the womans vagina when she has her back to him. This is not the same as any anal sex.

Rear entry sex allow for very deep penetration and vigorous pushing. The man's hands are free to caress the woman and he can reach her clitoris very easy with rear entry sex positions.

It is more difficult for the woman to caress the man with rear entry sex than in others because she has to reach behind her. The drawbacks of rear entry sex are that the penis entering from behind gives very little stimulation to the clitoris.

Variations on rear entry positions.

This good sex position can be done with the woman standing but bending over and supporting herself; Rear entry positions can also be done with the woman on her hands and knees and the man kneeling behind her, which is also known as doggy style; This good sex position can also be done with both you and your partner lying on your sides, her back to your front; Rear entry positions can also be performed with her on her knees and forearms so that her buttocks are raised. You then kneel behind her grasping her waist and hips controlling all the action.

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here is excercise to tighten vagina :-

Firstly try pelvic floor exercises. These are proven to be beneficial. Squeeze the inside of your vagina. If you cannot, try teaching yourself by inserting a tampon, then slowly tugging on the string. By squeezing your muscles around the tampon to "stop" it from being pulled out, you are strengthening your pelvic floor muscles and tightening your vagina.

You should try to do at least 30 "clenches" a day. Do ten really fast, then ten slow ones that you hold, then ten more fast ones.

Goodluck .

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Response from: Ansari Arif,   
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hi Sumita

this problem is common among couples when there is not enough foreplay. try and enjoy as much foreplay as possible before climax reached.these type of problems are totally psychologic and anatomical. and can be overcome through proper techniques. thanks

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