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Query from: belinda, canada, 06/28/07
Topic: SEXUAL HEALTH      Submitted on: Ask Agent
Subject: I was wondering if a guy needed to ejaculate to have tiny cum stains on his underwear or does he need to have sex. Or does that just happen sometimes.

my boyfriend has been coming home with small cum spots on his underwear. We havn't been having sex so i was wondering if he's sleeping with someone else or that just happens to men. I know it happems to women. please answer to the best of your knowledge.

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Response from: Indumukhi A.,   
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Source: This information comes from my own knowledge.
Belinda, if you have any suspicion your boyfriend is cheating on you, you need to talk to him about it and consider you have serious relationship issues. This has nothing to do with sex. It has to do with TRUST, and honesty, the foundation of any relationship.

Now for your question. You are wrong: women DON'T get "cum spots" on their underwear. Women don't ejaculate into their underwear during the day. What women have is vaginal discharge, and no, men don't have discharge.

Only very sexually inexperienced men (and adolescents) totally lack control over their arousal and ejaculation absent any stimulation. From what I know about male sexuality, it would be very rare for any man above the age of twenty or so who is sexually active (or masturbates regularly) not only to get an erection during the course of a normal day (at work or whatever) but especially to ejaculate into his underpants at all.

I would ask you two things:

1) Are you absolutely sure those spots on your boyfriend's underwear are ejaculation stains (as opposed to, say, urine)?

2) Do you think that your boyfriend may be cheating on you?

If you answered yes and yes, I would say you should get out of the relationship. If you answered no and yes, I would say you have to get out of the relationship, too.

If you say no and no, and yes and no, I would say, stick with it and put your faith into it.

But notice that what matters here isn't the physical evidence-- it's your suspicion.

Hope this clears things up a bit in your mind.

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Response from: Geetha Gopakumar,   
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It is very normal, becuase men think about sex 80% of their waking hours compared to most women. This may be a dry drop of semen or most probably it may be the pre-cum drop and merely the semen that is at the tip of the penis prior to ejaculation that may dripping sometimes due to an odd time erection happened. You should not think with regard to this as the result of his immoral act/sex out of marriage.Usually the penis must be erect to secrete sperm. He must be getting excited sometime during the day.Does he masturbate before going to work? may be or may not be.Holding out on your husband and your husband not masturbating could also cause some discharge or if he was extra horny thinking of YOU all day at work with/or without some fun play time at home could cause this to occur.Also some men at times have pre-cum it occurs normally during an erection but it doesn’t for some men and at some times in our life’s it wont require any extra stimulation, for some men they will pre-cum every time they have an erection to some degree. It doesn’t have to be something he might be doing with out you; he may love you very much and may just be extra horny. Becareful about the far reaching consequences and the pain one have to go through while making charges about our lfie partners. instead you have to be more intimate and loving, if you don't have any health problems to have intercourse with your husband then try to be gentle and provide other forms of sex with him.

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Response from: Eswara Reddy Illuri,   
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Sometimes its happened unexpectedly in dreams. It's not only with sex only, but also with dreams also sometimes. No need to worry about it. It's common thing.

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Response from: C. Raj, United Kingdom,   
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FEAR NOT, You can be sure that these small spots CAN be a discharge of semen. Quite a few men, have unstimulated discharge during nights and in course of day. This is normal. But, that entirely does not rule out other possibilties. But let us hope that it is a natural cause.

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Response from: meenakshisundaram thirunavukkarasu,   
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it is common in men atht too young boys..

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