Belinda, if you have any suspicion your boyfriend is cheating on you, you need to talk to him about it and consider you have serious relationship issues. This has nothing to do with sex. It has to do with TRUST, and honesty, the foundation of any relationship.
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This information comes from my own knowledge.
Now for your question. You are wrong: women DON'T get "cum spots" on their underwear. Women don't ejaculate into their underwear during the day. What women have is vaginal discharge, and no, men don't have discharge.
Only very sexually inexperienced men (and adolescents) totally lack control over their arousal and ejaculation absent any stimulation. From what I know about male sexuality, it would be very rare for any man above the age of twenty or so who is sexually active (or masturbates regularly) not only to get an erection during the course of a normal day (at work or whatever) but especially to ejaculate into his underpants at all.
I would ask you two things:
1) Are you absolutely sure those spots on your boyfriend's underwear are ejaculation stains (as opposed to, say, urine)?
2) Do you think that your boyfriend may be cheating on you?
If you answered yes and yes, I would say you should get out of the relationship. If you answered no and yes, I would say you have to get out of the relationship, too.
If you say no and no, and yes and no, I would say, stick with it and put your faith into it.
But notice that what matters here isn't the physical evidence-- it's your suspicion.
Hope this clears things up a bit in your mind.
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