Lies are more believable than the truth. oftentimes people want to believe what makes them feel good no matter what the facts are.if a person believes that a lie is real, it will become real in its consequences.
"Individuals construct reality in their own mind. If you believe something is true, it becomes true regardless of what the facts are," maintains Young, a specialist in forensic psychology.
He says that lies are often more believable than the truth because people have a huge capacity for denial. "It's easier for a person to accept something when it is similar to what they believe. Some would say in order to understand truth you have to have insight, but insight itself is not sufficient. Individuals tend to deny certain facts which contradict what they want to believe."
A recent study found that memory plays a great part in what people recall as true or false.
Some people believe that if the perception they give allows them to be accepted and valued, especially if they lack the self-esteem to value who they are, then the lie is more believable than the truth.
"The perception is that the lie is going to make me feel loved, appreciated and valued. These are things everyone desires. When people feel this way, they think that maybe they can get away with it. They'll tell one lie and then get way in over their head."
Low self-esteem isn't the only thing that could make a person take to lying and believing untruths as real. A person's mental health is another factor.
"A person may have an antisocial personality disorder in which one diagnostic criteria will be deceit, repeated lies and conning others for pleasure. "These people just don't care. It's a mental illness. The onset of it is usually 18. These people would be prone to being a pathological liar."
As a former member of the Colorado State Board of Parole for two terms, Young says that he once worked closely with pathological liars. For them, lying is a way of life and lies always take precedence over the truth.
"They know they are lying, but their whole purpose is to manipulate others. Even though you catch them in lies, they'll just fabricate more lies to cover up for being discovered. They weave such a complicated web of lies that oftentimes they may often confuse themselves," notes Young.
Accepting the truth can be difficult, the experts agree. But, as it says in the Bible, "the truth shall set you free."
"It's difficult to get up every morning facing the truth," says Dickerson. "Therefore people, particularly oppressed people such as African Americans in the U.S., may buy into lies."
Telling people the truth is of the most fundamental importance. We cannot just suppress the truth based on how people will react. We do not have the right to determine a people's happiness. That means that we do not necessarily have the right to make them unhappy. But we do not have the right to keep them ignorantly blissful either. What should we do? Give them the truth.
What is it that we offer in return after taking their happienss away? The truth.
(Rated by 8 Council Members)