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| From: | Praveena rao, India, Aug/23/10 submitted on: Ammas.com | |
| Subject: | Please advise | |
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Please help me. I am unable to decide anything.I am engaged and my marriage is after 3months.My fiancee is the only child for his parents.We got 8months time nearly between engagement and marriage.Now 3months are left out.I cant break this relation.I want some solution for this problem.Here is my problem
I cant live without my freedom.specially in my personals things.I can adjust with common things but not with my personal things like my dresses,my accessories,my language etc.whenever i tell this to my fiancee he tells me that i am giving u complete freedom.But thing is he is not restricting ,his mother is restricting me.And my fiancee tell that i will give u complete freedom but i dont ask me about my parents.And he tell me that u shouldnt hurt my mother and if u hurt her i wont tolerate anyone.He tell me indirectly.His parents want me to talk in their way, like foe example, they tell me call him sir if i call someone with name or something else.
I am feeling like i am loosing my life.If this continues for some more months
i guess i may go into depression even.After all i have one life.Why they wanna live my life.they are trying to live my life.II cant live without my freedom.
Please someone suggest me solution.I will wait for your response.Thanks and regards in advance.
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mahesh meghwal, Council Member Ammas.com |
break the relation is easiest thing which you can do but you must try to be committed with that guy so first you understand him and try to explain your desire. if you have another guy which can more c | |
| From: | V Mu, United States, Aug/21/10 submitted on: Ammas.com | |
| Subject: | Hi Ammas, Thanks in advance. This quest... | |
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Hi Ammas,
Thanks in advance. This questions is about a marriage.
My sister is not accepting for the marriage proposal we gave her now. She is just finished college. We are compleing her because we like the guys family very much we know him from childhood and moreover she has got some astrology issue so it is very hard to get match for her. She is just kepping on telling no with no other reason. The guys side is also waiting because of Astrology issues for her answer. I think she is a baby she do not know anything so we should go ahead and fix date for engagement. But I need u r advice.
Thanks, V
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mahesh meghwal, Council Member Ammas.com |
dear if your sister says no then there may be a another reason. please try to find out whats the reason. i can suggest you now because i don't know about your culture if you are indian the there is sh | |
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sekir , Registered Member Ammas.com |
Let me be very frank- I have done my post graduation in counselling and psychology.
Do not fix any marriage without her consent-people rect differently to different situations and this might even a |
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laxmi p, Council Member Ammas.com |
I think that you or someone close to her in the family should talk to her privately and ask her why she doesnt want to get married now and why she is saying no this person. She may not like the guy no | |
| From: | Anonymous, United States, May/11/10 submitted on: AnswerPod.com | |
| Subject: | Engagement Ring | |
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This question has come from a cell phone. Here is the question: What is this ? 
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lakshmi , Featured Member Ammas.com |
This is an engagement ring which is used in christian marriage and some other religious marriages. and it looks like a diamond ring. | |
| From: | kandwal, india, Jun/02/08 submitted on: Ask Agent | |
| Subject: | post engagement talks | |
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on what topics do young couple who are engaged should talk about to know each other better?
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Brinda Shine, Council Member Ammas.com |
The key to healthy marriage is to keep your eyes wide open before you wed and half-closed thereafter.
The typical couple spends much time talking,Still, they don't know each other as well as they t |
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Geetha Gopakumar, Council Member Ammas.com |
An engagement is an agreement or promise to marry, and also refers to the time between proposal and marriage. During this period, a couple is said to be affianced, engaged to be married, or simply eng | |
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Winnie The Pooh, Council Member Ammas.com |
Dear Kandwal,
The engaged couple should talk on the following topics. 1.To know each others tastes/interestes. 2.To know each others likes/dislikes. 3.Know about the behaviour of all people st |
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Anu Babu, Council Member Ammas.com |
Hi Kandwal.,
Post engagement period is very very nice to enjoy., U have a lot to discuss in this time frame., first try to know each others interest.,taste.,color.,food habits.,places.,all genera |
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laxmi p, Council Member Ammas.com |
I think, young couple can talk about each others likes and dislikes, hobbies, career, career goals etc.Talking about relationships they have with their parents or cousins etc will help to know how clo | |
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Ria S, Council Member Ammas.com |
Kandwal
Well some good points could be - Plan for life, carrer - where do the stand on supporting each othe'rs parents. - Whats their take on children - How much money is enough in their eye |
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NEERAJA NAVEEN, Council Member Ask Agent |
Any topics whch ever is interested by both.These topics may be regarding their childhoods,collegedays, cinemas, arts ,sex and future plans.
Actually engagement is meant for knowing each of the two |
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minmini R, Council Member Ask Agent |
hi kandwal,
You can better talk about your family members and your tastes in each and every field which will be very useful to mold your would be according your likings All the best |
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| From: | Sumit, India, Jun/02/08 submitted on: Ammas.com | |
| Subject: | Visting in-laws before marriage | |
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My fiancee wants to visit my home for a day or two. But, my mom says that she should enter her in-laws home only after marriage. Is there such a belief/custom in India? If you have any idea let me know.
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Shreya G, Council Member Ammas.com |
Hi Sumit..Well, yes!!..In many communities in India, still the daughter-in-law is not supposed to enter the house before marriage due to some superstitious customs. Actually, the point behind this is | |
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Geetha Gopakumar, Council Member Ammas.com |
She can visit her in-laws but avoid entering into the house. Your mom's view in this respect is right and to be considered. Samskarah means an obligatory sacred rite or a religious ceremony or a rite | |
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Sherry C, Council Member Ammas.com |
YEs, in India it was not allowed to stay even for a day at in-laws place before marriage. The reason for this is not excatly known but I believ it is so because they wanted to avoid the groom and the | |
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Brinda Shine, Council Member Ammas.com |
Remember that a successful marriage depends on two things: "finding the right person and being the right person".Marriage is not just coming together of two individuals. There is much more to it.
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N ., Council Member Ammas.com |
This is an old tradition which used to signify that the newly-wed girl enters the house after all the auspicious rituals have been performed. The basic purpose goes back to the fact that the entry of | |
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Sneha Rao, Council Member Ammas.com |
Dear Sumit, In india, it is not considered appropriate for a person to stay at in-laws place before marriage. It is a custom and the seriousness of its implementation depends on which community you b | |
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Indumukhi A., Council Member Ammas.com |
Yes. I cannot answer for all of India, but I was not allowed to enter my in-laws home before marriage. I am surprised you are asking such a question actually because I am sure your mom is not the only | |
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laxmi p, Council Member Ammas.com |
In most parts of India it is considered a custom to specially invite the bride to her new home after marriage.A small function in honour of her will be performed and all the new members of the family[ | |
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Anu Babu, Council Member Ammas.com |
Hi Sumit.,
Yes it is an indian custom that girls have to come to inlaws place only after wedding. They are not allowed to visit inlaws before wedding. The basic intention is U will have a thrill |
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NEERAJA NAVEEN, Council Member Ask Agent |
Yes , there is a custom like this.But everybody should understand why these customs are made.
In my understaning, it may be due to that if DIL enters in ahouse after the engagement , before marriag |
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kunal s, Council Member Ask Agent |
Hi Sumit, This is the custom made by us,ie human beings.We say what is wrong and what is right.Everyone in the world has their own principles and beliefs that they think is right or wrong.I can under | |
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Bond 007 James, Council Member Ammas.com |
in india lot of customs and traditions are following since many years.among them fiancee should not visit her in laws home before marriage is one.but no one is seriously following this.every one adju | |
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s. laxmi, Council Member Ammas.com |
Hai Sumit,
IN India we are following the custom that A Bride should enter her in laws house only after marriage.Since they are going to live in that house ,they have go their in laws house onlly |
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mrs.ram s, Featured Member Ammas.com |
hi sumit,
There is nothing wrong in entering into in-laws house before marriage... my bhabhi visited our house before her marriage with my brother and spent almost 7 days with us... yeah there |
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Mary Elisabeth Bens, Council Member Ammas.com |
Hi Sumeet, A belief or custom is not a matter now.If you do this,it may hurt your mom's feelings as it is against her wish.If your fiancee wants to meet your people ,then arrange it in a temple or a | |
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Winnie The Pooh, Council Member Ammas.com |
Dear Sumit,
Yes in most parts of India,it is a strong belief/custom that the Bride should enter the in-laws house only after marriage. A girl becomes a Bahu/Daughter In Law and takes the respons |
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Ria S, Council Member Ammas.com |
HellO Sumit,
Yes your mom is right. Its custome in India that daughter in-law should not visit house until marriage. Its considered unfortunate. With times changing many people dont believe in this |
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minmini R, Council Member Ask Agent |
hi sumit,
India is a sentimental country. So before marriage speaking to the would be is even wrong in India. So according to indian culture it is not good to visit the in-laws before marriage.
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Keep Smiling ., Council Member Ammas.com |
I don't think there is anything wrong in visiting inlaws house before marriage. This may vary with the customary practices followed by different caste people. In general there is nothing wrong in it. | |
