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Thank you amma for being so helpful and for your wonderful advice.I will try to work this thing with all your good advice.Thank you and God bless you.
--   04/06/05
 
Hello Ms. Geetha, Thank you for your wonderful response to my long long query. Thanks again for taking so much time go through the query and responding back so patiently.
-- Amulya   04/05/05
 
Hello Ms. Geetha, Thank you for your wonderful response to my long long query. Thanks again for taking so much time go through the query and responding back so patiently.
-- Amulya   04/05/05
 
Thanks for the reply to my query. Hi I like your response. """"Here is my situation: we are 6yr married couple. we used to live happily(not that we dont have fights) for four yrs. After my mil/fil came our life became very bad. My fil is a very selfish/short temper/egoist person and to """" YOUR response: """Almost all these case how you feel your wife’s role. Whether she commented/objected her Fil while hitting you. If she have any feeling –at least a little percent of affection, attachment with you then she object it. If she didn’t done this means she doesn’t have in mind about you and your well being."""" Also I could not blame my wife fully as she has the benefit of doubt of POSTPORTEM syndrome after delivery.
-- your name   04/01/05
 
Thanks for the reply to my query. Hi I like your response. """"Here is my situation: we are 6yr married couple. we used to live happily(not that we dont have fights) for four yrs. After my mil/fil came our life became very bad. My fil is a very selfish/short temper/egoist person and to """" YOUR response: """Almost all these case how you feel your wife’s role. Whether she commented/objected her Fil while hitting you. If she have any feeling –at least a little percent of affection, attachment with you then she object it. If she didn’t done this means she doesn’t have in mind about you and your well being."""" some more history: Actually we use to quarrel for her parents issues. AFter they came also, my wife preferred me to them while in delivery. The main issue I think is the communication gap between her & her father. They say her father loves very much which I dont believe. They say we dont love each other..just to make their point. we have difference but not deep. Now the problem started with some small thing..she said something wrong to them..which even i said that is her fault..and they started blackmailing that they will go back and we keep baby sitter. At that point I told my wife should not talk like that and they should not respond like that. AT that point I explained everything in blk &wht what happened in the past about the misunderstandings. As I said they know what they are doing and they are not agreed and pretend that they know nothing. I was explaining 3 ofthem wife,mil,fil. Anyway I did not sleep that whole night and next day I told them sorry not that I am wrong but by tellilng that they are our guests and as our tradition,"athidi devobava" and asked to stay and leave as normal. My wife was supporting in somethings in those arguments. Next day when I was not there,again I think my fil had an argument with her and againblack mailing her that they will go back. she called my office and asked me to book the tkts.I pacified her and came in the evening and compromised all of them. I told her to say sorry also at that time(since they are her parents). This happened at 2 months of their 6 months stay. AFter that they put all these grudge and started provoking my wife for even small difference on me. My weak point is ..I cant take blames or lies and on top of that blaming me with shouting(Eg we both work ...she say we bought home with her money..utter lie,,ofcourse she never said this to me before). so Basically we used to quarrel in front of them only..they used to watch us..though my mil is atleast better in front of me but she tells all these when I am not there. As I told I am trying to correct when 3 of them are wrong..like If i would have booked the tkt I donthave toface this humility. On fil hitting me issue, my wife is of no fault at that time..,she supported me but again after couple of days of blackmailing again she is changed everything and telling I am trying to get sympathy from her. Ever after hitting, to be honest with you i talked to them...but can't kill my heart or so I came up upfront with them and said this is it. They felt insecure and again starting using her short temper on me... This whole seems funny for your guys. We both love each othe they know that...they want to divide at their cost. My father came...he wants togo back and see us united at his cost. that is difference between them..as a bottomline. Finally my wife character, she is immature but she loves(?) me very much before. she is very short temper as her father and does not care what she is talking. Thanks for your time for reading all these.. Actually Iam getting lot of relief by writng all these and getting/taking advices as i could not keep and keep and keep in my brain. Now the thing everybody what they did and they dont want to agree what they have done...so again blaming/showing others low and trying to make them good. waiting for your response...:-)
-- your name   04/01/05
 
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